Don’t Quit….Just Kick the Ball to Goal…!
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“I was feeling shy. I was nervous and disturbed by things around me. It was full of negative energy. But now I have ‘Dooodooo’ – an ISO:9002 product..! Which changed my life completely…now I am feeling awesome… Now I have two girlfriends ! I am rich….bla…bla..bla….bla…bla..”
You and me, how many times we have seen these kind of teleshoping advertising video on TV. Well, some impressed by that and ordered a product and then depressed. We need an immediate miracle in life which can change your life as soon as possible. By ordering such makes you feel happy for sure. But what is the guarantee that it is not gonna happen again ? You will fail again, depress again, fall down again.
While I am writing all above negative words like fail, depress, fall down; I am also writing the word ‘again’. Again because falling down is a part of life. If you are falling down it means you tried to walk. You tried to walk but you fell down. Worst thing is you never tried walking or never tried walking again after falling down.
From our childhood we fell down number of time while playing. We never quiet playing by never getting up. So you fall – is required in your aim. There is no shortcut of success.
When you falling down few things required to get up.
1. Never Quit
Winners don’t quit. You are falling down and you fail. It means you know now how to do. Bitter truth is yourself you always know why you fail. But you are afraid of failing again. But do you know that when you started at first try, were you afraid ? Probably not or you might be little nervous… If you want to win the game, don’t quit. All are afraid when they are trying again after falling down but the thing is that who tried then becomes winners. As any footballer if you want to make a Goal, you have to kick the ball. It may happen that ball couldn’t goal but it is better than you didn’t try for goal by kicking the ball. World’s greatest leaders never quit their spirit.
E.g. Mahatma Gandhi was thrown out of train by Britishers under racism and Gandhi had decided not to quit and fight back to them in a different way and for freedom.
One more person is a great leader – Abraham Lincoln won election after several failures.
2. Analysis of yourself
You already know who you are. You also know the reason of your failure. But you are not trying to think of it. Thinking of it deeply or analyze it make you know your weakness. Think on what you did in your attempt that makes you failure. When you fail try to analyze on the spot, if possible, because you will get benefit of fresh memory of what you did. Thinking on it may pain you…its normal…it should pain you…its good sign. You are pretending yourself as so called in right direction but when you will see yourself in mirror in thinking about yourself, you will feel shock that “Whoa…..I was not doing that and that is the most important thing to do and I was not doing that and I failed…”
On thinking on reasons of your failure may give you a pain because you can’t accept yourself as that is your weakness. But knowing of your weakness is also one of a strength of people. You just need to do is to work well on overcoming your weakness. Remember – Pain is Gain.
For better knowing yourself ask your near one people about yourself. Their view towards you may help you.
3. Inspire from others
There are many example of people around me in my life where I am seeing them in a worst condition than mine. They are economically weak, living in lack of basic facilities like lights or even physically unfit. One of my friend has lost his both hands but trying his best to become CA. One of my friend paralyzed by legs in accident and trying her best to become CS. I can feel how they face basic problems daily and still smiling and never complained on what happened with them.
On comparing yourself with others you will get to know that you are better than others in all other terms. Your body is well, your economic condition is better than them and in many aspects you are better than them except they won the match and you are not.
You are not a looser but just a few steps away from success. If you have everything then utilize it before it become waste.
4. Inspire from your past
In past, how many times you failed but you didn’t give up. For example, in cycling you were falling down again and again but after trying again and again you know finally how to drive cycle. There were many things in life you did in past which gave you success. At now you may think that those success is very small like cycling and you didn’t do anything big. But hello…in any activity you have to try again and again.
Cycling was the big thing to learn when you were kid. Now you are elder and you are thinking it was a small thing but you should know that you were also a kid and that time learning a cycling was a big thing. You are already a successful so don’t give up. Its just one more step of success you are trying to achieve.
4. Start action
By thinking of your weakness and comparing yourself with other make you feel good and motivated but it doesn’t have any importance if you are not doing action on it.
Again the point of pain comes…it will pain you…and it should. Remember – Pain in Gain. No athletes won race or game without pain.
Just go for it. Never wait for any miracle to happen. Miracle will only happen when you will do some step.
Dwarkesh K. Diwan 