Shop Alone First Time

This is the kind of experience that I didn’t want to share but I feel that in this world many are like me who have gone through this experience or going through or wanna be going through.

I went to holiday trip with my relatives for Tamilnadu. We were at Chennai i.e. our first place to visit at Tamilnadu. During second day we got to know that India’s biggest mall is in Chennai called ‘Express Avenue’.

We all decided to hang out in that big mall, to eat, do shopping in different shops and showrooms at mall. We all decided further that let’s separate from each other by making different groups and meet at a common place at 3pm, i.e. multiplex at mall.

So, I went with my relatives in different group for hanging out….where I suddenly decided to shop. It wasn’t predecided.

We went to the ‘Lifestyle’. For men it was at one floor lower, we can go there by escalator inside the ‘Lifestyle’ showroom. I had decided to choose to.buy t-shirts for me…. and it was completely my choice… For the first time in my life I got the ‘REAL’ experience of shopping.

I know it’s sounds really uncool…but for me it was awesome…because before entering into ‘Express Avenue’, I did shopping with my mom or dad or friends. This time one of my relative was with me but he told me “Choose freely, I m here, get trials…buy at your own choice…” & I felt like “Ja Simran ja…jile apni zindagi…” I was out of my city and though I was with my relative I was free to do anything… so I did it….and I loved what I did.

While entered into men section…there were clothes from different International brands….there were so so amazing that I became confuse to do what now, like which brands to try first… I have decided to shop within a budget of Rs. 2k because at that time I had only that much. So like an economical buyer I had to control my emotions. There was another reason for control my emotions and it was about my size of t-shirts i.e. XL. I am not slim so that I had to choose selected available. I was happy that for my size all kind of branded t-shirts were available and it were in 360° around me. In every brands clothes section there were different discount schemes..like 40%, two free on buying one, 20% off on jeans etc. I went to different brands and tried many cool t-shirts.

My sized t-shirts were not available for that most famous brands which I like the most. So I went to other brand section where 50% discount were there on only two t-shirts buying…but again size problem.  So again I went to other brand section where i got the best t-shirt but the price of t-shirt was equal to my entire shopping budget…so again I went another section where I got my size but I didn’t like those t-shirts. Again I went to other brand section where I got my size cum discount of 40%. When I ask the representative I got to know that discount scheme is not on both t-shirts but on lower price t-shirts of two or more t-shirts you buy. And this kind of general scheme was in entire store. At that time I realized that this is how discount schemes applicable and sellings are made by them. But I wanted some different pattern but that was not available on that same brand section…so again I had to change brand where again it was 40% discount and that brand was ‘UCLA’. In that section my sized t-shirts and my liked colours also available so I bought two t-shirts from there. Now I wanted to buy last one brand’s t-shirt too that I liked but due to same pattern I rejected it. So I went again to that brand section, it was ‘Kappa’, and I bought the one that I liked and the other one with the different colour but of same pattern. But instead of buying within Rs. 2k, my 4 t-shirts costed now beyond my budget….so again confuse to whether buy or not. I selected those four t-shirts, 2 from ‘Kappa’ and 2 from ‘UCLA’. On knowing that I was shopping beyond my available money my relative added an extra remaining money for it. & thus at the counter of cash I paid money and bought t-shirts of my own choice for the first time.

On buying I had to pay discounted money…and Lifestyle  gave me different rewards vouchers which I can redeem on other stores purchases.

I got KFC vouchers too…that also I can redeem.
So by this experience I learned few things….
1. Your choice is best because you are buying by your own
2. You become aware about a kind of clothes and brands that suits to you the most
3. Discount schemes are good but to take benefits of big discount buy more
4. If you feel it’s wrong purchase, you can’t blame someone else…as it was your own choice
5. Your size is different for different brands
6. Feel freedom/Independence of buying
7. You become aware of different available brands in market
8. You learn that if you want to wear an awesome clothes and best brands then become a person like that to wear like that.
9. Always have extra money with you so that you can’t miss the opportunity of best.

Usually its normal to buy clothes for many people. But in my case my old belief, that I can’t buy clothes for myself alone and I need help to choose clothes, proved wrong by myself by this experience. Now I feel self esteemed and confident. Now it was like when I think of Chennai, memories of my shopping and Express Avenue comes in my mind. I am thankful to my relative who came with me. I still remember my way of walking became changed….as I felt great and wow. It was proud walk.

I want to all those things I never did in my life and I wishing for…as life is awesome and I wanna be experimental and will take risks.

Most Simple Equation ‘Pain=Gain’

The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.

In other words….Pain is Gain…!

So if you are feeling pain then feel that you actually in process of gaining.

Don’t loose hope if your pain is continue, as more you will pain the better success you will get.

And remember pain is always a temporary, so enjoy pain with hope.

Don’t Quit….Just kick the ball to Goal….!

Don’t Quit….Just Kick the Ball to Goal…!

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“I was feeling shy. I was nervous and disturbed by things around me. It was full of negative energy. But now I have ‘Dooodooo’ – an ISO:9002 product..! Which changed my life completely…now I am feeling awesome… Now I have two girlfriends ! I am rich….bla…bla..bla….bla…bla..”

You and me, how many times we have seen these kind of teleshoping advertising video on TV. Well, some impressed by that and ordered a product and then depressed. We need an immediate miracle in life which can change your life as soon as possible. By ordering such makes you feel happy for sure. But what is the guarantee that it is not gonna happen again ? You will fail again, depress again, fall down again.

While I am writing all above negative words like fail, depress, fall down; I am also writing the word ‘again’. Again because falling down is a part of life. If you are falling down it means you tried to walk. You tried to walk but you fell down. Worst thing is you never tried walking or never tried walking again after falling down.

From our childhood we fell down number of time while playing. We never quiet playing by never getting up. So you fall – is required in your aim. There is no shortcut of success.

When you falling down few things required to get up.

1. Never Quit

Winners don’t quit. You are falling down and you fail. It means you know now how to do. Bitter truth is yourself you always know why you fail. But you are afraid of failing again. But do you know that when you started at first try, were you afraid ? Probably not or you might be little nervous… If you want to win the game, don’t quit. All are afraid when they are trying again after falling down but the thing is that who tried then becomes winners. As any footballer if you want to make a Goal, you have to kick the ball. It may happen that ball couldn’t goal but it is better than you didn’t try for goal by kicking the ball. World’s greatest leaders never quit their spirit.

E.g. Mahatma Gandhi was thrown out of train by Britishers under racism and Gandhi had decided not to quit and fight back to them in a different way and for freedom.

One more person is a great leader – Abraham Lincoln won election after several failures.

2. Analysis of yourself

You already know who you are. You also know the reason of your failure. But you are not trying to think of it. Thinking of it deeply or analyze it make you know your weakness. Think on what you did in your attempt that makes you failure. When you fail try to analyze on the spot, if possible, because you will get benefit of fresh memory of what you did. Thinking on it may pain you…its normal…it should pain you…its good sign. You are pretending yourself as so called in right direction but when you will see yourself in mirror in thinking about yourself, you will feel shock that “Whoa…..I was not doing that and that is the most important thing to do and I was not doing that and I failed…” 
On thinking on reasons of your failure may give you a pain because you can’t accept yourself as that is your weakness. But knowing of your weakness is also one of a strength of people. You just need to do is to work well on overcoming your weakness. Remember – Pain is Gain.

For better knowing yourself ask your near one people about yourself. Their view towards you may help you.

 3. Inspire from others

There are many example of people around me in my life where I am seeing them in a worst condition than mine. They are economically weak, living in lack of basic facilities like lights or even physically unfit. One of my friend has lost his both hands but trying his best to become CA. One of my friend paralyzed by legs in accident and trying her best to become CS. I can feel how they face basic problems daily and still smiling and never complained on what happened with them.
On comparing yourself with others you will get to know that you are better than others in all other terms. Your body is well, your economic condition is better than them and in many aspects you are better than them except they won the match and you are not.

You are not a looser but just a few steps away from success. If you have everything then utilize it before it become waste.

4. Inspire from your past

In past, how many times you failed but you didn’t give up. For example, in cycling you were falling down again and again but after trying again and again you know finally how to drive cycle. There were many things in life you did in past which gave you success. At now you may think that those success is very small like cycling and you didn’t do anything big. But hello…in any activity you have to try again and again.

Cycling was the big thing to learn when you were kid. Now you are elder and you are thinking it was a small thing but you should know that you were also a kid and that time learning a cycling was a big thing. You are already a successful so don’t give up. Its just one more step of success you are trying to achieve.

4. Start action

By thinking of your weakness and comparing yourself with other make you feel good and motivated but it doesn’t have any importance if you are not doing action on it.

Again the point of pain comes…it will pain you…and it should. Remember – Pain in Gain. No athletes won race or game without pain.

Just go for it. Never wait for any miracle to happen. Miracle will only happen when you will do some step.

Sense of Achievement

Sense of Achievement

Many time I heard and read in many books – what is success ?…which is nothing but a satisfaction of your work. It is feeling happy in satisfaction.

Many times small achievements bring big achievement. Small happiness brings smile on your face – that’s success or achievement or satisfaction.

Say for example –

1. Making tea for the first time feels like wow…I can make a tea. Riding on a horse or driving a car on highway brings confidence once we do those things. Confidence comes when we do those things what we had never done before. Small sense of achievement in one activity brings sense of achievement in another activity or activities where other activity/activities may or may not relate to the first activity.Making confidence in – tea can make you capable of making other food too because by this we are saying to our self if I can make tea then I can make coffee, juice, dinner food etc. & in – driving a scooter (say example).
2. For student (like me), solving illustrations without seeing answer from the book and my answer comes correct is a sense of achievement. As a student of Commerce, if my Balance sheet will tally after all necessary adjustments I will feel good and happy as….Yes, I did it correct/right. I felt like I was I was considering myself Idiot that I was not trying it. Now my answers comes…so I can solve others too. So I learned when the point of times comes which you think you can’t do it want to leave it then don’t leave it and do it from that time immediately.
3. Just like real example,  I got first time exemption score (i.e. 60 + marks) in Company Secretary (CS) – Professional Program Exam in subject of ‘Financial Treasury and Foreign Exchange Management’. I scored 65 marks in that. I never scored this kind of high marks before in my all Chartered Accountancy (CA) Exams CS exams before but I did it in Company Secretary Exams this last exam. This result gave me confidence to score same in CA-Final too. I will do it. Sense of achievement makes you trust on yourself of your capabilities and thinking.
4. For me learning new languages is my hobby. I took a free online course of BBC Learning Spanish Course of 8 weeks called ‘Mi Vida Loca’ (My crazy Life) which teaches me Spanish. After finishing first week course I felt great and again said…wow…I can speak Spanish as well though it was only of first week…but it was fascinating. Sense of achievement makes you fascinated to do even more, better and different things. Some times to do something crazy or unusual then others also brings you happiness because you feels that only you can do it.
5. Singing badly in bathroom (though you think I am Indian Idol), even doing moon walk of Michel Jackson suddenly in front of people for a while is unusual.Hobbies like singing on stage, make people laugh on your joke, can do a mimicry of any actor, dating a girl, getting wicket or hitting six like Chris Gayle, scoring goal like Messi or Ronaldo or Roony. Making your hobby running with you gives you give you happiness and sense of achievement.
6. Some times co-indecently or by your wish you have to face to your phobia to remove it. Many years ago in one Mind Power Workshop of Sneh Desai, there were two part of activities on remove phobia of fire, in which we had to walk on fire and eating fire cotton in mouth. I did both successfully. That removed my fear of not only fire but of many things. Removing fear or phobia is also a sense of success or achievement.
7. Last year my friend’s birthday was entire planned by me what was complete creative and different. I made a movie for him to gift him in which there were different interviews taken, by me, of his friends and family. It was taken 7 days to complete this unique task by making contact of people, convince them for proper time of interview, making questions, upload on movie making, edit, getting help of other people too and made a DVD as Gift. After his birthday I was happy inside more than my friend because of feeling of doing something ‘wow’-kind of stuff first time in my life. What I did was unrelated to my aim of becoming Chartered Accountant. That day I realize I can do many more than this because nobody has ever done this before and I did it.
8. Sometimes thinking out of box also makes success to you.

Great personas of world could create many wonderful things that were only because of their sense of achievement. In earlier days before Apple was incorporated late Steve Jobs and his friend Woznaik invented a phone which can be talk long distance without any call cost which was fascinating for them and they started to making new and innovative stuffs all times. Mahatma Gandhi experimented a lot of his non violence and truth for independence of India and they won finally after many small success. Mark Zukerburg started Facebook few years ago for some purpose. For him making Facebook was his success. He never had thought before that this Facebook stuff can be highly successful than never before.

For achieving Big Success many small senses of achievements is needed.

“ટીપે ટીપે સરોવર ભરાય”  – Gujarati proberb (Many Small drops of water makes a lake)

So it’s just like finding happiness in small things which will bring you more and more happiness in future. NEVER EVER CONSIDER YOUR SENSE OF ACHIEVEMENT AS NONSENSE BECAUSE IT IS THE ONLY SENSE WHICH CAN BOOST YOU UP.

Hobby of Sharing Life Experience

Hobby of Sharing Life Experience

Hello……My World….I have my first article on my recently developed hobby of Sharing experience of my own-life.

  

In our life are passing through different phases viz. Our Born, KG schools, high schools, college / universities studies, drop outs, first crush & yes…even second or subsequent crushes, friendship, sex, love-ship, relationships with parents, wife, kids other relatives or with our clients and associates etc. In all those phases we get lots and lots of experiences and still life goes on and again having similar experience/s. If this experience we get once or again and if it’s our success experience then we feel it’s good, but if this experience is bad we get frustrated and depressed. Well…..in both of the above experience whether good or bad, we need to think about them both. Ahaa…not just think we should judge it from different point of view.
Bad experience is of course a matter of think or analyse because we need to overcome the particular problem rather not thinking and seat idle will be total waste of energy and time. Energy because we disturbs other things associated with our routine life because of such bad experience like activities of going office and loose daily targets, talk with wife and be angry on her or even getting ill on our health etc. Time because we are not thinking on it for the object of getting its solution with what happened to us. We have to think correctly to solve the matter on time of immediate after problem because we have a fresh memory of that problem or experience.
Even Good Experience makes time to analyse on us…why? Getting success on shortcut method or unethically may disturbs the whole game in future. Many examples are in sports persons used shortcut way to win the game by taking anti-human drugs and as a result they have to return back their winning titles and become shameful to society.
Now let’s come to the point of sharing…why sharing? Its simple….to get solution. Solution of yours and of others. Sharing of experience can be to the person you associate a lot (say your parents or well-wisher or wife or best friend), or your senior or even sometimes to large number of people. How to share is one of the questions. Every individual has his own style of sharing experience. Sharing of experience with a view to getting solution may different from only to share.

Developing a hobby of sharing has many advantages like:

1. It makes us start thinking about our self.

2. Identifying the inner problem only makes the solution because most of don’t know even what the hell is the problem and problem is so easy to solve out only on thinking on it.

3. Sharing with your close associates or seniors will solve your problem too. Many times we don’t discuss the problem with them due to many reasons like what that person will think about me? He will think that how loser I am? Or He can’t solve my problem as he is too too big persona etc. Don’t hesitate to share, it costs nothing but only gain.

4. Sharing of good experience may results in getting benefit of experiences of others too. How? To whom you share may as a counter sharing his similar kind of experience and you will get to know that this is inspirational plus helping to getting the success in a better way.

5. Sharing experiences whether good or bad, always good for others as they will get to know their solution through you. In this round world we may have similar kind of problems so we can easily co-relate with it.

6. “Success comes from Experience and Experience comes from Bad Experiences.” – Awesome line said by Motivational Speaker Sandip Maheshwari (Founder of ImagesBazar.com) expresses the Experience is the success path through many bad experiences. But it can come only if we think about our problem / experience and make a favourable result out of it.

7. Success experience is may good experience and sharing of good experience with people will make people start giving respect on you and recognise you as a successful person. This will boost up your morale a lot and gives you tremendous confidence.

It is the result of many peoples sharing experiences, life of our or others are changed. For example, as we know that drinking and drive may cause an accident. We may not realize it if we don’t met with an accident. We can realize it if our friend met with an accident with drinking liquor and was seriously injured, makes it life hell for many months, years or even life. Sharing good experience may results into betterment like in this example, drink and drive with high speed is good experience of fun and you share with friends. In that one of the friends may tell his experience of losing his leg permanently on having same experience as you have. He is now on fake leg. The other friend’s sharing will wake you up..And say you inside that it was good experience temporarily but might have met with the experience of losing a leg like him….so from now I will drive carefully without drinking liquor.

Many of our choose ideals in life. Why? Because we like his life experiences. And further dealing in all situations on the basis of his experiences. His life experiences gives us inspiration to live our life as he did or even in better way. So, sharing may inspire others to do different.

So, please share your life experiences to the world and change it to the better world you live.